Yes, I am a mom. Yes, I am a blogger. Does that make me a mom blogger? Yes and no. I struggled with this for a long time. I never wanted my children on my blog, but I saw so many other bloggers growing rapidly sharing cute loving photos of their family. So, I thought it was something I had to do to succeed. I tried it a few times. I even wrote posts about children products. As my blog has grown, I get inappropriate direct messages, my husband receives them, I’ve even had men tell me they love me. Recently, I had an incident where my husband was direct messaged pornography within minutes of being tagged in one of my posts. At that moment, I stood in Disneyland and deleted every photo of my children.
I have spoken to other moms with similar stories, some even more disturbing than mine. Personally, I can’t subject my children to these dangers. I’m not saying that other moms are in the wrong for sharing photos of their children. I’m just saying it’s not for me. At such a young age, I don’t feel that they need to have their photos plastered all over my Instagram and social media accounts. After all, my blog was created to inspire moms to make time for themselves and take care of themselves.
So, who really needs to see my children? Of course, I think they are adorable, they are huge part of my day. Every once in a while, you may see the back of their head running around or a blip of a crazy moment on my stories. What you won’t see is a shot of them standing in front of their school, or with the tag of our favorite ice cream shop. I urge other mom bloggers to really consider how much of your personal life you share with the worldwide web. There are awful people out there. As we post photos of our children innocently shopping in our favorite shopping center, it allows people to learn your patterns. I, like many people, don’t want to live my life in fear, but I also want to do my best to protect my children. Which has brought me to this point. My children will no longer be on my blog. If that means I have less followers because everyone wants to see adorable pictures of my girls in matching outfits, or a photo of my daily life, well I guess that’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make.
Everyone knows when they see that three letter word in your bio, there are tiny little human beings that are your inspiration, your reason for living, working and growing. I can still relate to every other mom. I understand their struggles and their proud moments. There will be many times where one of my babies makes me so proud and I know I will want to share that moment with my community, but I won’t. My blog will remain a place for moms, or all women for that matter, to find tips to feel beautiful, strong and proud. No kids photos needed.