No Kids Photos Needed

Yes, I am a mom. Yes, I am a blogger. Does that make me a mom blogger? Yes and no. I struggled with this for a long time. I never wanted my children on my blog, but I saw so many other bloggers growing rapidly sharing cute loving photos of their family. So, I thought it was something I had to do to succeed. I tried it a few times. I even wrote posts about children products. As my blog has grown, I get inappropriate direct messages, my husband receives them, I’ve even had men tell me they love me. Recently, I had an incident where my husband was direct messaged pornography within minutes of being tagged in one of my posts. At that moment, I stood in Disneyland and deleted every photo of my children.

I have spoken to other moms with similar stories, some even more disturbing than mine. Personally, I can’t subject my children to these dangers. I’m not saying that other moms are in the wrong for sharing photos of their children. I’m just saying it’s not for me. At such a young age, I don’t feel that they need to have their photos plastered all over my Instagram and social media accounts. After all, my blog was created to inspire moms to make time for themselves and take care of themselves.
So, who really needs to see my children? Of course, I think they are adorable, they are huge part of my day. Every once in a while, you may see the back of their head running around or a blip of a crazy moment on my stories. What you won’t see is a shot of them standing in front of their school, or with the tag of our favorite ice cream shop. I urge other mom bloggers to really consider how much of your personal life you share with the worldwide web. There are awful people out there. As we post photos of our children innocently shopping in our favorite shopping center, it allows people to learn your patterns. I, like many people, don’t want to live my life in fear, but I also want to do my best to protect my children. Which has brought me to this point. My children will no longer be on my blog. If that means I have less followers because everyone wants to see adorable pictures of my girls in matching outfits, or a photo of my daily life, well I guess that’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make.
Everyone knows when they see that three letter word in your bio, there are tiny little human beings that are your inspiration, your reason for living, working and growing. I can still relate to every other mom. I understand their struggles and their proud moments. There will be many times where one of my babies makes me so proud and I know I will want to share that moment with my community, but I won’t. My blog will remain a place for moms, or all women for that matter, to find tips to feel beautiful, strong and proud. No kids photos needed.
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  1. November 15, 2016 / 6:38 am

    I completely get this post! I will still probably share occasional photos but I do get some pretty inappropriate messages too esp on IG! It’s crazy that they see “wife and/or mom” and they still dont care. I get XXX messages on snapchat from random people too …So inappropriate!

    For me i like to keep my blog though mostly for moms just because its my little space to escape and still be me ….aside from being mommy

    • Fashionista Momma November 16, 2016 / 12:53 am

      Yes I totally agree!! Isn’t the IG direct messages crazy? It’s so inappropriate. xo ~ Megan

  2. November 15, 2016 / 3:26 pm

    Thank you for sharing this! This is something that has been on my mind and I’ve been struggling with since I started my blog. Especially since my husband is in law enforcement. It’s sad that we have to live in a world full of fear.

    • Fashionista Momma November 16, 2016 / 12:52 am

      It is sad, but I would rather be safe then sorry. You will find the best decision for your family. We all do. 🙂 xo ~ Megan

  3. November 15, 2016 / 4:57 pm

    I share your sentiments wholeheartedly! I am oftentimes torn between whether to share or not to share my daughter’s photos, though I mostly post via Facebook. I have even gone to extremes to modify my privacy settings to limit audiences especially to posts with her. Having read your article I honestly am feeling more conviction in my decision to cease posting altogether since I too share your concern about the unscrupulous individuals lurking on the World Wide Web. Thanks for sharing this.

    • Fashionista Momma November 16, 2016 / 12:51 am

      You are so welcome!! It is a scary world out there and if my story can help keep one more child safe. Thanks for stopping by. xo ~ Megan

  4. November 16, 2016 / 9:57 am

    Totally respect this choice! I have another blogger friend who received some disturbing messages as well and that would for certain be scary. I’m sad we live in a world where this is something we have to worry about. Protecting your babies should always be your #1 priority.

    • Fashionista Momma November 18, 2016 / 12:12 am

      Absolutely #1 priority. It is a crazy world we live in. xo ~ Megan

  5. November 16, 2016 / 12:57 pm

    I used to by solely a mom blogger, but as my children got older (they are 7 and 10 now), I just didn’t see the need to blog everything they did. Plus, as they’ve gotten older there just isn’t as much to write about nor do I really feel it is right to blog about their day to day. They really are becoming their own person now and it’s just not my right to share. I do blog about them from time to time, but it’s not the main focus on my blog. Those messages you received are scary! Def. some crazies out there!

    Carrie
    curlycraftymom.com

    • Fashionista Momma November 18, 2016 / 12:06 am

      Yes Carrie it is scary! I totally see your point as they grow it is hard to share their life on a blog. Thanks for sharing your story. xo ~ Megan

  6. November 28, 2016 / 7:35 pm

    Thank you for this. I’ve been struggling with this for a little while. While I’m a mom I’ve met mostly mom bloggers and that’s not really what I’m about. My main focus is budget life and style styling. Occasionally I’ve posted pictures about my son but at the same time I feel it takes away on top of once their picture is out there it’s hard to get it back.

    • Fashionista Momma December 6, 2016 / 12:23 am

      Exactly! Do what feels right for you! Everyone is different and what works for one may not work for another. Good Luck. xo ~ Megan

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